Discipline is not a dirty word

STANFORDVILLE — How do you make the kids behave? The Cornell Cooperative Extension Dutchess County (CCEDC) is offering a series of three, free parenting workshops called “Discipline Is Not a Dirty Wordâ€� for parents or the caregivers of children. The course will  be held in Stanfordville.

The series is designed to teach the seven basic principles of positive discipline techniques. Briefly these principles are: (1) tell children what they can do instead of what they can not do, (2) protect and preserve children’s feelings that they are lovable and capable, (3) offer children choices only when willing to abide by their decisions, (4) change the environment instead of the child’s behavior, (5) work with children instead of against them, (6) give children safe limits they can understand, recognize their feelings without accepting their actions and maintain authority calmly and consistently, and (7) set a good example.

The two-hour workshops will take place on Thursdays, Sept. 30, Oct. 7 and 14, at the Sisters of Charity Retreat Center on Sisters Hill Road in Stanfordville from 6 to 8 p.m. Activities for school-aged youth  and light refreshments will be available.

This educational series in parenting style is part of the Cornell Extension’s Parent and Family Education “PAFE� program, which provides educational support groups, youth activities, intergenerational activities, respite events, parenting workshops and referrals to community-based services for all residents of Dutchess County. It is partially funded by the Dutchess County Office for the Aging and the New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

The CCEDC, located in the Farm and Home Center in Millbrook, is associated with agriculture and 4-H, but it is also an educational resource for families all over the county with programs in nutrition, financial management, parenting and health. The Relatives As Parents initiative, for example, educates and supports surrogate parents who have taken on the responsibility of raising children from their biological parents for reasons of teen pregnancy, incarceration, financial problems or death. Coffee and conversation support groups for caregivers are held every month on the first Wednesday in Amenia at the South Amenia Presbyterian Church.

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