New year, but happy?

Talk about mixed feelings! Another year is ready to start and I am not yet done with the old one, or is it the other way  around? For instance, I have not yet worked on the fifth year of my five-year personal plan. My plan is years behind now, and it is looking like I may have to carry it over again.

Does anybody else remember the Five-Year Plan? It was very big with business a number of years back. It was one of those fads. They even used it on job interviews. “Where do you see yourself five years from now?�

Now you had to be careful here. Was the interviewer looking for someone he could groom to take his place so he could move up? Or was he trying to find out if you were too ambitious and might threaten his job? Years later there was a saying, “I never met anybody who worked the fifth year of a Five-Year Plan.� Didn’t anyone notice that the communist countries were using this concept for industry and agriculture and look where it got them.

u      u      u

How about New Year’s resolutions? What is the secret to success? I think we can all learn a lesson from the little old lady who was interviewed on her 80th wedding anniversary. They asked her what was the secret of her successful marriage. Her answer? “Don’t expect too much.�

This is also called leaving room for improvement. This is very important when dealing with management or a spouse (pretty much the same thing). It took me a long time to learn in my early schooling that if you did your best work all the time, all you got, pretty much, was abuse when you did not quite measure up. Now you were expected to excel.

The kids who seemed to struggle received lavish praise for half the results. They got credit for just trying. Nobody was cutting me any  slack. They called it not working up to potential. The only way to beat this is to move far away and start a new identity with a nice, low, baseline of performance. Now you can grow and get all those “most improvedâ€� awards. This is not as easy as it sounds.

In the old days, you were pretty much whoever you said you were. Records keeping was more a suggestion than a fact. Nowadays they find you and then they want to know where the last installment of your Five-Year Plan is.

And where do I see myself five years from now?

Older.

At least that’s the plan.

Bill Abrams resides (and worries about his plans) in Pine Plains.

Latest News

Robert J. Pallone

NORFOLK — Robert J. Pallone, 69, of Perkins St. passed away April 12, 2024, at St. Vincent Medical Center. He was a loving, eccentric CPA. He was kind and compassionate. If you ever needed anything, Bob would be right there. He touched many lives and even saved one.

Bob was born Feb. 5, 1955 in Torrington, the son of the late Joesph and Elizabeth Pallone.

Keep ReadingShow less
The artistic life of Joelle Sander

"Flowers" by the late artist and writer Joelle Sander.

Cornwall Library

The Cornwall Library unveiled its latest art exhibition, “Live It Up!,” showcasing the work of the late West Cornwall resident Joelle Sander on Saturday, April 13. The twenty works on canvas on display were curated in partnership with the library with the help of her son, Jason Sander, from the collection of paintings she left behind to him. Clearly enamored with nature in all its seasons, Sander, who split time between her home in New York City and her country house in Litchfield County, took inspiration from the distinctive white bark trunks of the area’s many birch trees, the swirling snow of Connecticut’s wintery woods, and even the scenic view of the Audubon in Sharon. The sole painting to depict fauna is a melancholy near-abstract outline of a cow, rootless in a miasma haze of plum and Persian blue paint. Her most prominently displayed painting, “Flowers,” effectively builds up layers of paint so that her flurry of petals takes on a three-dimensional texture in their rough application, reminiscent of another Cornwall artist, Don Bracken.

Keep ReadingShow less
A Seder to savor in Sheffield

Rabbi Zach Fredman

Zivar Amrami

On April 23, Race Brook Lodge in Sheffield will host “Feast of Mystics,” a Passover Seder that promises to provide ecstasy for the senses.

“’The Feast of Mystics’ was a title we used for events back when I was running The New Shul,” said Rabbi Zach Fredman of his time at the independent creative community in the West Village in New York City.

Keep ReadingShow less