The secret to 102 years - keep busy and drink Sprite

SHARON — Robert Outram, who celebrated his 102nd birthday on Friday, July 20, has watched the sun rise and set over the hills of Sharon Valley for more than 65 years. He has seen a world change and evolve before his eyes. He has witnessed the advent of automobiles, airplanes, spaceships and computers. He has experienced wars, the Depression, and every conceivable form of tragedy. He has loved and he has lost.

Outram’s mind is a trove of experiences. He is a living, breathing library, housing more than a century of memories. When one asks a question, he pauses to ponder. He responds succinctly and sincerely. “Quite frankly� and “Oh heck� preface most of his responses.

Outram is a simple man. He dresses plainly and neatly in a white button down and khakis. His home on Sharon Valley Road, as precious a historical treasure as Outram himself, is kept clean and tidy. There is an old, wooden television that sits squarely in the living room. Outram will occasionally turn on the evening news. Mostly, though, he enjoys reading the newspaper.

On Tuesday, Outram invited this reporter into his home. He sat down in his chair at the foot of the dining room table. He wrapped his hands together and placed them gently on his lap and began to unravel the story of 102 years of life.

It is difficult to express a seemingly unfathomable lifetime in a context that is understandable.

Robert Outram uses the price of gasoline.

“I moved here in 1941, when six gallons of gas was 16 cents,� Outram said with a toothy smile. “I never would have thought I would see gas get to be $3 or $4 a gallon.�

Outram was born in 1905 in New York City. His parents were originally from Barbados. He was raised and went to school in Harlem.

Outram’s adolescence was beset by tragedy. His father died when he was 6. At 14, his mother passed away.

“I can’t remember what happened yesterday,� Outram said. “But I remember the night my father died.�

Outram was raised by his grandmother and his aunt.

During the Depression, Outram drove a battery truck, delivering radio batteries at a rate of 50 cents per hour.

At 28, Outram attended a dance in New York City and met a girl named Amelia. They would spend 57 years of marriage together.

After getting married, the couple moved to Great Barrington, Mass.

“We worked for a family there,� he said. “I waited tables and my wife did the cooking.�

Outram soon became employed full-time at General Electric in Pittsfield and later at the Wassaic Developmental Center.

He and his wife settled in Sharon Valley and, though their house lacked a kitchen, Amelia fell in love with the place.

They made a kitchen out of the dining room, putting in a refrigerator and stove. They also added a porch, a fireplace and a well and septic system.

Amelia found a job working for the family of Chauncy Truax, and Outram mowed the lawn and served food after his shift at the developmental center ended.

The couple became close with  the Truax family, especially Chauncy’s grandson, Philip, and his wife, Heidi, and their four boys (Aaron, Toby, Luke and Hans).

Robert and Amelia never had children of their own.

“We couldn’t be bothered by kids,� Outram said. “We were always busy. I’m glad we didn’t [have children].�

The Outrams loved to dance and attend parties. They also traveled a great deal, vacationing in Barbados, Jamaica, Hawaii and Aruba. They would frequently visit Amelia’s relatives in Virginia.

“We had a lot of fun together,� he said. “I miss her dearly.�

Amelia died 14 years ago. Outram spent that evening with her at the hospital.

“I got home around 12 and as soon as I got home I got a phone call that said she had passed,� Outram recalled.

He credits his longevity to a combination of “keeping busy, not smoking, and not hanging out at bars.�

Outram’s sore feet prevent him from working too much in his garden, but up until a few years ago, he would still take care of the yard, mowing the grass and planting flowers.

Outram, who has a self-diagnosed sweet tooth, admits that he frequently indulges in Sprite, his favorite beverage.

“I drink milk and orange juice, too,� Outram said. “I don’t drink coffee. I’m a tea drinker.�

His diet consists of rice and potatoes along with hamburger, lamb chops and chicken. While Outram doesn’t bake, many community members stop by to drop off food and share a story or two.

He is an active member of the Sharon Methodist Church. Sunday, after services, the church threw Outram a party. The cards and balloons from the festivities still sit neatly in Outram’s living room.

“There was cake,� he said, before shaking his head. “Not 102 candles, though.�

Sharon resident Marion Chatfield, whom Outram calls his “guardian angel,� brings him to the super market or the doctors and visits almost everyday.

“It’s nice to have somebody to depend on,� he said.

Outram still does as he has always done: taking each day as it comes.

“I treat each day like every other day. No difference,� Outram said. “I know nothing good lasts forever.�

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