The Wedding Day, When ‘I do’ becomes ‘We do’

The perfect wedding: Not a bride’s dream but a couple’s shared vision

I was not a little girl who dreamed of her wedding day. I didn’t play bride; I didn’t make a veil out of my mother’s slip; I didn’t force my brother to stand in as groom.

The first time I was exposed to wedding mania I was 15, spending the summer working at camp. My boss, who was 19, brought stacks of wedding magazines with her. She taught me to rip out the pages and save them in a notebook so that when it came time to plan my wedding, I’d be ready.

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